We often accuse others of wishful thinking, but we seldom consider its effects on ourselves. As much as anyone, our beliefs are shaped not just by what we think is true but also by what we'd prefer is true, and the amount of proof that we need to be convinced of something is inversely proportional to how much we want to be convinced of it.
Solution: Always subtract your desire to believe from the available evidence.
Learnings after meditationself_improvement
- You don't find your ground by looking for stability. You find your ground by relaxing into instability.
- If you don't train your mind to appreciate what is good, you'll continue to look for something better in the future, even when things are great.
- What you hate most in others is usually what you hate most in yourself.
- The belief that there is some future moment more worth our presence than the one we're in right now is why we miss our lives.
- There are 3 layers to a moment: your experience, your awareness of the experience and your story about the experience. Be mindful of the story.
- Your mind doesn't wander. It moves toward what it finds more interesting. To improve focus, become curious about what's in front of you.
Source: a tweet thread by Cory Muscara that I saw in Questlove's Instagram.
A diet system for yourselfself_improvement
Willpower is a myth.
There's no such things as willpower. There is only how much you need to eat. How hungry you are.
Divide your need to eat between cravings vs normal hunger
- Simple carbs
- White bread
- White rice
- Complex carbs
- Remove cravings one at a time.
Source: Scott Adams microlesson
Don't borrow troubleproduct self_improvement
In the absence of real-world experience, action, and feedback, your idle mind is inclined to manufacture fantasy. And, if you're anxious, your fantasies will be anxiety-inducing: you'll conjure up problems that don't exist.
Your imagination will cast itself far into the future, build up a complete fantasy world, invent problems in that fantasy world, then ricochet back to the present… and freak you into inaction.